November 9, 2015

Black and white. Duality. Ying and yang. Opposites. How well that describes the weekend we just experienced! Oh the drama!!! Totally amazing how much of that can be crammed into just a short couple of days. There ought to be a law prohibiting the amount of drama a young lady should be subjected to per weekend or something. Would possibly have saved me a lot! On the other hand, I feel quite like if I’ve survived the past few days with all its rampaging high emotions, I can survive anything!!!

Saturday was quite stressful, but Sunday was (almost) all bliss though, because we made it to my happy place, the ocean. This might sound cliche, but just the first glimpse of the view of the skyline meeting the sea and all the stresses really seem to just fade away. I cannot even begin to describe how wonderful, how uplifting it is. (Ever watched the movie Knockin’ On Heaven’s Door? Donno, but just got reminded somehow. Beautiful movie, I highly recommend it. Go watch it!)

Today’s post is about what to wear to an Outdooring Ceremony in Ghana. In our culture, we believe that life is a cycle marked by four main transitions – birth, puberty, marriage, death (and then a rebirth…) and each transitional stage is marked by rites of passage/ ceremonies. Every newborn baby is confined indoors for at least a week after birth, after which we ‘outdoor’ him, perform the rites of passage welcoming him/her into the family and into the world. It’s a truly beautiful ceremony and recently we had that done for my nephew. This is what I wore. Normally I would have gone for a traditional garb like kaba and slit (which is what everyone else wore, btw.) but unfortunately I had exams that day as well, so I had to dress for that too. Overall, it worked out okay. Just love this dress; can’t go wrong with it! I slicked on some burgundy lipstick (to match the burgundy vintage purse) and I was good to go.

It’s customary to perform outdooring ceremonies at the break of dawn or early in the morning, and to wear white. Huh! That reminds me. I was rummaging through his closet for practicallyย hoursย for crisp white clothes for Milan and when my hunt yielded nothing suitable, finally had to settle for borrowed ones from Alex (because in my head, it just HAS TO be white, but we reallyย had to go or we would be late). Then we got to the venue and my older nephew was in brown! Brown! A creamy dark caramel of a brown. Not white. Not remotely passable for white at all even if you peered at him with eyes forcibly squeezed half-shut! I could hardly believe it. I raised narrowed eyes and an accusatory finger at my sis like “hey!”, (with a kung fu shriek and kick) but she only just burst out laughing when she heard my story! Then she giggled it out to my mom and they had some more bwhahahaha bwhahahaha’s! Hmph. Apparently the white dress code rule is not so strict when it comes to little ones… okay, my bad. Hmph.

Hope you are off to a good start this week!











Dress – mrp

Flatforms shoes – Jenny Fairy (Slovakia)

Bag – Vintage, from mom

Belt – Tesco

  1. Hello Cara,

    Black beauty! You make motherhood look so delicious, see how hot you look! I hope I look as lovely as you do post-baby. ๐Ÿ™‚

    The dress is so monochrome chic, I like the girly silhouette. I love how the pink purse added a touch of colour.

    I’ve noticed that Ghanaians have colour codes for ceremonies, I’ve seen black and white at funerals.

    I hope your exams went well?

    Have a great week!

    1. You flatter me too much, Nedu! ๐Ÿ˜€ Thank you dear. I’m sure you’ll look even better post-baby, seeing how gorgeous you are now!

      Exams went fine, and now I have the final one in less than a couple of weeks. Very last one of my degree!

      Yes, we do have colour codes! Colours are very symbolic to us. During funerals, we wear black for grief and white for thanksgiving for a successful funeral ceremony.

  2. I loved hearing about Ghana and what you would typically wear to a traditional outdoor ceremony. Your black and white dress is darling! You look gorg.

  3. So sorry that you had a stressful weekend, Cara. Hope things are calmer now. Wishing you success in your exams.

    I learned a quite a few things from your post. That Outdooring Ceremony is a beautiful ritual. Your culture is truly fascinating. I’d love to learn more.

    I love how you jazzed up your look to make it fun and flirty.

    1. Yes, definitely calmer now. Feverishly learning toward the final exams, which are happening in less than a couple of weeks. Thanks so much, Nadine!

      And yes, our culture is beautiful. It pains me that so much of it seems to be slowly dying. It’s part of what makes us who we are and we mustn’t lose that.

  4. My gorgeous Cara! You look so stunning in this black and white dress! So chic and classy.. You combined it perfectly with this shoes!
    Hope you enjoyed your ceremony my love!

  5. I’m all about those shoes, there’s something just 90’s Fab about them! And wow, very interesting to read about the outing ceremony in Ghana, I dont believe it is that way in Nigeria, but then again I only know what Catholics do with regards to them baptising babies…anyhoo, I’m sure you had a great time that day, I wonder what the baby wore, Awwwwww….have a gd wk! x

  6. You are stronger than you know it dear, keep it that way. Weren’t Alex’s clothes too huge for Milan though?lol! I love what you wore to the ceremony, it screams elegance, sophistication and stylish. I loooove those platforms, they are super chic, I need me a pair soon!!! I love the burgundy bag, super cute.

    1. Ha! Too big? Nope. They wear the same size now. Milan is quite the big man! You’ll be surprised.

      Go go get those platforms. They are a lifesaver, seriously. Cute AND comfortable! ๐Ÿ˜‰

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